We’re often meant to feel like the good life is measured by things like success, how good we look, how awesome our job is, the things we can buy, the square footage of our house, if we holiday in the South of France every summer… you know, stuff that’ll really impress everyone at our high school reunions. It’s a major scam on a global scale.
In the last year, my eyes have been opened to what the good life is all about. Before my son, it was as though I was squinting through foggy glasses. I had the ability to see and do good things — I loved my life before Clive and lived every second of it with Lindsay to the fullest. But it was limited, if that makes sense. And I had no idea how limited it actually was without him until he arrived.
That very second he was born was as if the lenses were wiped clean. What was once muddy was now clear. I used to worry about the life that I would lose when we would become parents. Worry about no longer being a young, do whatever I want, jump on a plane, stay on another continent for several months, stay up late, sleep in all day person. How ignorant, naive, and young in mind I was. If only I could go back in time and tell that person that stepping through the door of parenthood is possibly the most fulfilling thing we can do on this earth…
The moment I looked at my son, I mean the exact moment I saw his face, all I could think about was how foolish and childish that frame of mind was. It reminded me when I was 7 — petrified of the roller coaster that flipped upside down that I didn’t even care to try it. Then when I finally was talked into it I was completely blown away with how silly “pre-upside down roller coaster Bobby” was. Similarly, I’ve been overtaken with the fact that if I could do it all over again, start from scratch with my best friend, we would have had children in our lives sooner. Life is too precious to live without your child. And I can hardly wait to multiply that feeling with another little life to obsess over with my wife. Hopefully sooner than later :)
This first year went by so incredibly fast — almost too fast. I’m so glad I documented it as much as I did. The following was filmed almost entirely on the 5D Mark II and edited with Final Cut Pro X (music by Sage Francis — one of my favorite songs of all time). Hope it inspires some people who are in loving, balanced relationships to take the plunge :)