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A Deadbeat Conundrum

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Lindsay and I are both extremely fortunate in being able to be stay at home parents. Technically, I’m not a stay at home parent, but Lindsay is and I’m home an awful lot. Aside from the 2010 RPTE to Thailand/Cambodia, driving out to Nashville and back, Not For Sale’s Montara Circle in San Francisco, and Astami and Chan’s Bali wedding in April, I think I’ve been home everyday with my son. And Lindsay has been with him everyday I have plus the days I was gone. We are so thankful for this.

Last night, I left to go get dinner. Just being gone for 30 minutes, I missed Clive. Like more than just a little bit. It made me think of dads that just up and leave. I don’t ponder this out of judgment (not at all implying that dads who abandon their children are above judgment), but out of genuine curiosity. How in the world do these men do it? How?! How do you choose to be away from your child? How do you just go on living as if you never had a child? As I was driving home, I was genuinely perplexed how this could ever happen. I’m away for 30 minutes and I already can’t wait for the next time I walk around the corner, say something, and just the sound of my voice immediately induces a smile and whiplash-like head turn to see where I am. I have no idea how a man could go on making a new life, missing out on his child’s life, and not be haunted with constant curiosity of what his child is doing right then. I don’t get it.

And then I think of children who get abandoned like that. If I were able to talk to someone who’s dad left them, I would tell them that I now know from experience that it wasn’t them. It was their dad. The problem was with him. It’s such an incredibly unnatural instinct to just leave your child and never look back. Anyone who could do this just isn’t right in the head, the heart, or the soul (or, rather likely, all three).

My brother got Clive a vampire plug. This might be one of my favorite photos of him ever.

Bobby

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Katie Lewis - Cutest frickin' kid!!!May 26, 2011 - 12:06 am

Jeri - You are a good man, Bobby Earle. My father left my brother and I when we were 2 and 1, respectively. He remarried and had another daughter, whom he raised. My brother and I have only seen him a handful of times throughout our lives, with only 2 of those times being during our childhood and school years. We are perplexed at his actions and really missed out on getting to know our half-sister. We are both in our 40s now, but never let the fact that he was not with us hinder our lives. We had a strong extended family structure, so we never felt like we missed out on anything. Kids need to know they can flourish and grow despite a deadbeat parent. ;) p.s. How cute is Clive with that paci!!May 26, 2011 - 5:30 am

Charlene Kuyrkendall - Sometimes, the fathers don't have a choice, especially if the birth mothers deny the fathers the opportunity to be a part of their child's life . . . Every situation is always different . . . some people could not afford lawyers to fight for a chance to be a part of their kids' lives. Sometimes there are even fathers who are physically present, but emotionally absent . . . bottom line, it's never the kid's fault, and sometimes it's just circumstances beyond fathers' control. who knows why?May 26, 2011 - 11:00 am

Bobby Earle - Charlene, you aren't describing deadbeat dads who choose to never see their kids again. You are describing some of the most victimized people in the world -- dad's who get screwed because the judicial system nearly always sides with the mom. I feel terribly for those men. I'm only referring to the dad's who choose to leave ;)May 26, 2011 - 8:50 pm

Rob Bartlett - Bobby ~ thanks for the great post. I am the father of a 2 1/2 year old boy (Charlie), and a 2 month old daughter (Claire) - who was born two months early [today was her due date]. Looking back it was crazy: I spent a day or two catching up on your old blog posts about Lindsay's pregnancy & Clive's birth ~ then a week or less later I was in the hospital holding a 31 week 3-1/2 lb preemie. I can not even fathom leaving either of my kids. Being gone more than a day or two is really hard (I miss them even more if they're in bed before I get home some nights). Shortly after Claire was born (still in the NICU at the time), I lost my job ~ but thankfully got another right away. One thing that I struggled with most was my new (45+ minute, one-way) daily commute. I felt that I'd lose so much time with my kids that it just tore me up! Thanks to lots of prayer, and some prescription medication - I'm pretty well settled into my new job & routine... and in the end I think I may actually get to see my kids a touch more each day!May 27, 2011 - 1:31 pm

Charlene Kuyrkendall - :) and as a mother to my two little darling girls, I too can't even fathom why anyone would choose to leave their kids. My husband managed to find a way to have time with them via videophone every day while in San Diego on internship the past four months while we all were over here in Arkansas. He said it was the most torturous thing, and he wondered how a lot of people managed without videophone in the old days!!!May 30, 2011 - 9:12 pm

Nashville family portraits: The Sulcer’s

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I’ve had so much fun shooting portrait sessions out here in Nashville. Blogs make the world smaller and the Sulcer’s are proof of that. My mother-in-law works with Kari (mom in the photos) and told Jimmy (dad in the photos) about me a while back (since he’s a photographer, as well). Well he’s been reading the blog since then, invited us over for dinner a couple weeks ago, and grabbed the last Nashville session I was going to be shooting. Stories like these are one of the main reasons I love blogging :)

Anyways, as you’ll see from the photos, we got to know their daughters REAL well when we had dinner with the whole family a week before the portrait session. So the shoot was basically Ava and Dylan hour — which I instantly found out meant racing, wrestling, them shooting photos with my camera, more racing, more wrestling, and then negotiating terms with me so we could race, wrestle, and shoot with my camera some more. If you’re not a photographer, this might sound hectic. But if you are a photographer, you’ll know that this means awesome photos. The two oldest girls were just hamming it up over and over for me — photographers can’t ask for more :)


Funny story here. I was shooting and said “ahhh… come on car…” waiting for a car to move behind my subject’s head. Well, my subject’s name is “Kari” (pronounced “Car-ee” and not “care-ee”) :P Needless to say, her response was, “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do???” and my immediate thought was “what’s she talking about, she’s doing great!” Then it hit me that saying “ahhh… come on car…” sounds an awful lot like grumbling “ahhh… come on Kari…” We had a good laugh over it :)


On your mark. Get set. Go!


Hands down, my favorite image from the day. Her expression is priceless. If someone offered me a million bucks, I doubt I could duplicate this face :)


Here’s me being attacked by a miniature mob.


And here’s how Jimmy helps me :P


This is the no smile until I say ‘bananas!’ game :)


Second favorite image from the day. It’s just so sweet.

I might start shooting more portraits at home. I’ve been having a lot of fun doing them out here :)

Bobby

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Nightingale Oao Garcia - Nice work! :)March 23, 2011 - 12:00 am

Matthew Taft - Fly out here any time, I'll let you take portraits of my family for FREE!March 23, 2011 - 12:00 am

Julie Cruz (Lot116) - Love these! My fave is the hand stand pic! :D Rad!March 23, 2011 - 9:35 am

Chrissy D - These are great, Bobby!!!! You need to do family sessions more often!! :) :) :)March 23, 2011 - 12:18 pm

Andrew Fleming - LOVE this set! What a beautiful and fun family to shoot (with a camera, that is...). Remind me later to ask you about your split-tone settings on these in LR :)March 23, 2011 - 2:25 pm

Elisha - Regarding your last two sentences: GOOD!!March 25, 2011 - 7:10 am

Percy Warner Park: Mark and Leanna (sneak peak)

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Here’s a sneak peak — more to come soon!

Bobby

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Katie Lewis - LOVE!March 15, 2011 - 1:06 am

LeAnna - Ok, this is torture. Sneak peaks are mean! They are big fat teases!! I need more. Think What About Bob here . . . "I need I need I need, gimme gimme gimme!" Just a little nudge because I love it so much. I can't wait to see the rest. :0)March 15, 2011 - 7:44 am

Nashville Portrait Photographer: The Arms

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We shot our friends, the Arms, when they visited from Australia :)


The model, Josiah, getting into character…


Our friend, Cindy, came with us. Always so much fun hanging out and shooting with her :)

Luke and Michelle (and Joey ;), we had such a blast hanging out while you were here in the States! Fingers crossed we can get back out to Oz to see you guys soon.

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I’ve got time for ONE more portrait session while we’re out here in Nashville. So if you’re wanting some Bobby Earle images while I’m in your neck of the woods, now’s the time! I’ve got a ripping Nashville discount. $500 for the session AND your disc of negatives (either a couple session or a family session). Here at home, I charge $1000 for the disc of negatives alone, so I’m trying to show some southern hospitality in hopes of fitting in with the locals :) But like I said, only one more…

Bobby

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Cindy - Love these shots!! :) Man they are so good!March 4, 2011 - 12:41 pm

Baby Countdown: Week 38

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So we just got back from our last doctor’s appointment. I am having a hard time believing that the time is here — it just went by so incredibly fast! It feels like yesterday when I announced that we were pregnant, doesn’t it? And now we’re at the end of the road.

It’s also hard to believe that this is the last week of just me and Lindsay. We’ve been married almost 8 years — and it’s just been us. We’ve done so much together. We’ve seen so much of the world and done so many exciting things. It’s crazy that now we are adding a baby to that. Insane.

It might be interesting to note that we are one week away from having our son and I don’t feel even a tiny bit like I’m about to have a baby. Not in the slightest. I feel like Lindsay just has a big stomach. Almost like we’re just thinking more seriously about having a kid sometime soon. Tuesday is going to be a BIG surprise!!! Nothing like having a baby to make you feel like you’re having a baby :P

Lindsay today at our last doc appt.

So next week? That’s right. A baby will fill this weekly post :)

Bobby

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bens - It's strange, I don't know either of you but I feel like I've been right with you all along! Good luck! :)September 21, 2010 - 2:59 pm

Brandi - I know time has been flying by for us as well. I can't wait to see baby Earle! :)September 21, 2010 - 2:59 pm

Lisa Mitchell - It doesn't feel real until you hold him in your arms and those little eyes look into yours. Nothing prepares you for that over whelming feeling of love that sweeps over and you are done... You are a dad! Congrats to you both! I can not wait to see the Blog posting and the photos! Forever changed you will be! XOXOX to you both!September 21, 2010 - 3:00 pm

Keng-Hay Wong - Aww I wish you and Lindsay all the best. It will be a magical moment. make sure you share it with the rest of the world :)September 21, 2010 - 3:01 pm

Tim Sarquis - Dude.......it's soooooooooooooooooooooo awesome! You have no idea. I know how you feel about not feeling like you're gonna be a dad...I felt the same way. But the moment that kid comes out....wow....what a feeling. I can't describe it. You'll just have to wait for yourself ;) I'm 3 weeks in as being a dad....its amazing...and the hardest job you'll ever have! So anyways congrats dude and I hope and pray that Lindsay and your son have a safe and healthy delivery!September 21, 2010 - 3:03 pm

rachael - get ready...your world is about to get rocked.September 21, 2010 - 3:03 pm

Mindy Metivier - Aaaaaahhh!!! Can't wait!!! Sooooo excited!!!September 21, 2010 - 3:37 pm

Jenn - I can not wait to see that first picture. Such an exciting time. Happy happy!September 21, 2010 - 3:56 pm

Julie Jamieson Cruz - Can.not.wait.to​.have.Clive.in.​my.arms!! Gimme! Gimme! :DSeptember 22, 2010 - 12:00 am

Sissel - Wow. Congratulations!! Hurry up and do nothing together.September 21, 2010 - 11:15 pm

Shannon - I was also going to say that it's strange that I don't know either of you but I am SO EXCITED for you both!!! I remember the day you announced you were preggers and how happy and excited I was for you both, and yes it feels like it was just yesterday so I can only imagine how it feels for you two! I just can't get over how incredibly blessed this kid is going to be! From what I read on the blog you are two absolutely amazing people and will be even more amazing as parents. If your kid is half as cool as you, and half as genuine he is going to ROCK! GOOD LUCK and I can't wait to see the little guy!!! :)September 22, 2010 - 5:59 am

Lotta - Oh, I got the chills now. How beautiful. Good luck next week, best wishes from Sweden! ?September 22, 2010 - 8:51 am

tracey - When I was pregnant with my first child, a boy, I couldn't imagine life differently than just me and my hubby. But once love enters the world in the form of your son you will say, "I can't imagine life without the three of us." It will open a space in your heart you never knew existed and that space will continue to expand with each passing day. My son turned 11 two weeks ago. My daughter is 8 today. I sat at the breakfast table this morning and looked at them and couldn't imagine my world without them. Even if someone offered me a full night of sleep, a world with out toy chaos and messes to clean up, or just a day without having to answer any questions :), I would not trade if for the life I have now. Savor these last few days of "couple-ness" and then begin savoring every single day of your child's life! It goes by fast! It's painfully true.September 22, 2010 - 8:59 am

pam - this post makes me smile! i remember sitting there just like lindsay is in this foto...and now SHE is 21 and HE is 10!!! soak in every moment sir!! it really does go faster than they say.September 22, 2010 - 9:48 am

Bethany Hawley Falefitu - YAY!!!!September 22, 2010 - 9:56 pm

Cheryl Sevier - It does go by fast & their first year goes by fast too! Take It day by day & enjoy him! I miss my girl being so small = ( & now she's already 4 but its the best thing ever to watch your baby grow!! = ) can't wait see the big post & see some great pics soon! Take care!September 22, 2010 - 10:27 pm

Julie Jamieson Cruz - Can.not.wait.to.have.Clive.in.my.arms!! Gimme! Gimme! :DSeptember 22, 2010 - 10:35 pm

Warren Williams - So very close, have enjoyed reading your posts over the past few months. Has certainly flown by!September 26, 2010 - 3:41 pm